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Occupation and Industry?

Occupation-IndustryHow does any mom answer this question?  Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or you work outside the home, you’re always and forever a mom!

I was filling out some forms recently when I came across a field to enter my occupation.  I wanted to enter “Professional Mom.”  In the past, I might have joked about being a “Domestic Goddess,” but seriously all that the role of a Mom encompasses should not be ridiculed.  There are many occupations a Mom fulfills such as comforter, nurturer, diaper-changer, baby feeder (this was my job the summer of 7th grade at a neighbor’s who had infant twins), nurse, chauffeur, advocate, meal planner, Room Mom, cheerleader (even at sporting events when it’s 50 degrees and raining) healer of hurt bodies and hearts, playmate, confidante . . . . this is just the tip of the iceberg –- not nearly enough room on the form to describe the occupation of a Mom, so I guess Professional Mom will have to suffice.  Even though I work part-time at home now that my kids are older, I still feel like my “Mom” role is my true vocation.  It’s an ever-changing, ever-evolving role that has taught me more about myself and life than I could ever have imagined.

And when it comes to the question of industry?  I’d like to fill in the blank with “LIFE,” specifically the Department of Raising Children (to be compassionate, responsible and generous adults who will make the world a better place).  Unfortunately, all that won’t fit on the form.

I just want to acknowledge Moms for all they selflessly do for their kids and families.  We may never know how far-reaching our love is, but we always know it’s the most important thing!

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A Card Table and a Blanket

I’m trying really hard not to complain – – really, I am – – but this winter will not end!  The temperature has not gone above 30 in several weeks – yikes!  It’s going to feel downright balmy when we hit 40 degrees.  I’m almost giddy just thinking about it.  The sun is feeling warmer these days, and I just know we’re going to turn the corner soon – – right?  RIGHT??!

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We had a winter like this 20 years ago when J & J were babies. Being my first winter as a stay-at-home mom, cabin fever would set in often.  I would bring my double stroller into the house, bundle babies in snowsuits, cover the stroller with warm blankets and head out the door.  Sometimes is was only a 20-minute walk – – shorter if the neighbors had not shoveled their sidewalks.  But it made all the difference to my day – – just a bit of fresh air and exercise not only made me feel like I had accomplished something, but I just felt better!

When the boys were toddlers and in pre-school, the blanket fort saved many a day!   All we needed was a card table (or two chairs back to back) and a blanket – – sometimes there would be a picnic, sometimes special stories or coloring and maybe a nap (if I was lucky). Hanging out in there was an adventure.

A blanket fort is magical!  It can distract even the crabbiest little one and save a mom’s sanity.  (Totally worth the mess vs. reward in my opinion.) Besides, any reason to act like a kid again is good for me 🙂  The forts became quite elaborate as the boys got older – – often they would use just about every blanket, sheet and cushion they could find – – sometimes duct tape too!  I knew I could count on some peace and quiet when a fort was in progress, and sometimes the fort would stay up for several days becoming a home unto itself.

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A Culture of Life

I was five years old when the Supreme Court ruled on the issue of abortion – too young to understand until I reached my teen years.  Roe v. Wade. I listened to a broadcast today by Focus on the Family which includes audio of some of the actual court proceedings from 1973.  It is well worth 25 minutes of your time.  If you haven’t guessed by now by reading my blog, I am a Catholic/Christian and I believe that life begins at conception.  I recently learned about a program supported by Focus on the Family called Option Ultrasound.  This program helps women in crisis SEE, BELIEVE and CHOOSE LIFE for their precious preborn babies!  Remember how much more bonded you felt with your babies when you saw the first ultrasound?  This program has saved an estimated 230,000 lives over the last 10 years!

It saddens my heart that many young girls and women are convinced that the “easy” thing to do is terminate a pregnancy.  Many women are desperate for a solution to an unexpected pregnancy and so they must make a choice.  Why must the choice be between life and death?  I have been blessed to have cousins, nieces & nephews, in-laws and many friends who were adopted, and I am grateful that my life has been enriched because someone I will never know chose life for their unborn children. To learn more, I encourage you to read/share The Sanctity of Life – a great resource for all stages of life from the womb to the tomb.

Upon reflection today, I realize how blessed I have been to carry and give birth to three beautiful children – my twin sons and my daughter.  Parenting isn’t easy; it’s downright scary at times. But it also gives us beautiful moments and opportunities to grow and reflect God’s love back to our children. He gives us the grace to do the best job we can. There is no greater honor than witnessing God’s creative handiwork!

A dear friend of ours lost her 84 year-old mother this week.  This woman was truly a “voice for life,” and her legacy will live on through her 10 children, 65 grandchildren and 30 great-grandchildren.  She was a beautiful, faith-filled woman who trusted God and loved her family.  Just to be around her made me feel closer to God.  Whenever I saw her she made me feel important and was interested in my family – an awesome trait that she has passed along to all her children.  She and her husband were a beautiful witness to the value and dignity of all human life.

Shock and Awe

UltrasoundYou’ve heard the expression “shock and awe,” right?  Well, that is what I was feeling for several days after learning I was carrying twins.  Shock because I had never considered twins a possibility and awe that we were gifted with two babies.  This definitely changed our plan and I began to understand that I wasn’t in control after all.  Also, an unexpected feeling of guilt crept in – I had only been loving one baby, not two.  I know, it sounds silly, but I felt it just the same.  How quickly “mother’s guilt” reared its head! 

As we told more people our happy news, the reality of “two” set in.  It was exciting and terrifying at the same time!  Thankfully, we had made the decision for me to stay at home with children early in our marriage.  We were committed to that and had been working towards that.  I realize that to be home by choice is not a possibility for everyone, but it felt right to me.  Still, it was intimidating to think that I would be completely responsible for two babies right from the start!  It’s a good thing pregnancy takes nine months – I needed that time to mentally prepare for motherhood!  I had always wanted to be a mom, and I was fortunate to babysit for lots of great kids (and even a set of twins) growing up.  But this was the real deal – no going home after a few hours with cash in my pocket.  This would be my full-time job!